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1 Man's Story of Impotence


 Impotence -- feeling numb, helpless and hopeless.
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I'm in my 50's, barely computer literate and my doc has told me to do this as a way of helping myself emotionally heal from a recent divorce. A week ago I didn't even know what a blog was, but here I am. I just hope I do it correctly.

I plan to make an entry a few times a week, telling more of my story, but most importantly, expressing my emotions because I can't do that with anyone else.

I look forward to comments from anyone that reads this blog.

Thanks,
Jeff W.
Posted by Jeff W. at 2:48 AM - 126 Comments   Add a Comment  
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Welcome to your space. Regards LaLePoP  
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by lalepop (PM , CC ) on Friday October 14, 2005 @ 4:21 AM




Hi!! Welcome to blogstream! I think that this will definitely help you..You're in good company..Take care and be well.. :-)  
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by Schree` (PM , CC ) on Friday October 14, 2005 @ 6:25 AM




Welcome and feel free to vent. It works really well here, trust me. You'll get the hang of it soon. -Spiffyqueen  
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by Spiffyqueen (PM , CC ) on Friday October 14, 2005 @ 6:33 AM




Welcome to Blogworld Jeff- Grab a seat and join right in... we are here for ya... ;) PolarB  
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by PolarB (PM , CC ) on Friday October 14, 2005 @ 6:56 AM




Let loose. It helps.  
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by Spyder Driver (PM , CC ) on Friday October 14, 2005 @ 7:42 AM




You are very brave - and I salute you. I started blogging as a result of desperation and depression, now I just blog and enjoy it. Still miserable but getting better. Welcome to the world of blogging. Kats:0)  
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by Katts (PM , CC ) on Friday October 14, 2005 @ 8:17 AM




Welcome Jeff,Glad your here. Hope you benefit from it. Believe me you'll meet some very nice,caring people. Pie  
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by i am pie (PM , CC ) on Friday October 14, 2005 @ 8:58 AM




It seems to help to talk.. and so helpeful when it is about your life you can't share with those around you...  
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by inktiger (PM , CC ) on Saturday October 15, 2005 @ 11:32 AM




There is no "correct" way to blog, you just write as you feel like doing it. Welcome aboard.--Sir Cranky  
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by Sir Cranky (PM , CC ) on Saturday October 15, 2005 @ 11:42 AM




hope it helps J. Welcome  
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by Icemelts (PM , CC ) on Sunday October 16, 2005 @ 12:18 AM




Hi Jeff! I just got here. I went through 2 divorces so whenever you want to rant or cry,feel free. I think that's what blogging is all about.  
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by Sleeper.M (PM , CC ) on Monday October 17, 2005 @ 1:23 PM




I know eaxactly what you mean. My divorce was five years ago and it seems like yesterday. Healing is hard, but you will and you will be the better for it.  
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by 2hard2tell (PM , CC ) on Tuesday October 18, 2005 @ 9:30 PM




I want to say something profound....but words do not come to me. Something unsual because it usually takes an act of congress to shut me up! I too am divorced, but I am now remarried and I wanted to let you know that it does get better. For me love really is lovelier the second time around - and hopefully i'm getting better at it!  
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by Skye49 (PM , CC ) on Thursday October 20, 2005 @ 5:42 PM




Life is like a storm-wind-rain-hail-lightening-thunder-but the sun will shine again-so is life with it heartaches-pain and suffering-you will smile again.  
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by Topaz (PM , CC ) on Thursday October 20, 2005 @ 9:26 PM




I'm a newbee too, but welcome to this little blogging world. Blog away...we're listening.  
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by Schnauzer Lover (PM , CC ) on Friday October 21, 2005 @ 12:43 AM




Hello Jeff W., I'm glad you're taking this leap. There are many curious and funny souls brought together in Blog World. I hope this is a healing process for you ~ DeBunkem  
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by Cornelius Hump Esq. (PM , CC ) on Friday October 21, 2005 @ 4:14 AM




Hi again Jeff, I maintain more than one blog (including 'Cornelius Hump of Norwich') and I sometimes forget to login as the Blogster I am speaking as - hence DeBunkem speaking through Cornelius Hump (in previous comment). I think I have made myself clear? All the best ~ DeBunkem  
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by DeBunkem (PM , CC ) on Friday October 21, 2005 @ 4:54 AM




Hey Jeff W, Sorry to read about your divorce. I commend you on your effort to express your feelings and hopefully work out some anger.Good luck with your blog and I hope you learn something new about your inner strenghth every time you chose to share your thoughts and life with us Sincerly, Charlie Brown ( fellow blogger)  
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by Charlie Brown (PM , CC ) on Saturday October 22, 2005 @ 2:31 AM




Jeff, Welcome to blogging! I am a newbie but I am loving this already! I am impotent! There I have said it! I support you in this tough time that you are going through! Blog me and we can certainly chat further! WarmNorm  
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by WarmNorm (PM , CC ) on Saturday October 22, 2005 @ 6:46 AM




welcome in the world of bloggers!  
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by lifeloving gal (PM , CC ) on Sunday October 23, 2005 @ 9:11 AM




Hi Jeff & welcome! =)  
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by wickedcreati0n (PM , CC ) on Monday October 24, 2005 @ 12:48 AM




I must say, I am amazed. Maybe I'm wrong but I just checked your profile and let's see, you are telling us you are just divorced and living in the Bahamas? You are male and so tell me again, what are you complaning about again? Dude, I ain't ever been to the Bahamas, but I would think there would be plenty to get you going on down there. Man, I would love to be there, married or not. Well welcome to Blogstream, hope it helps.  
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by Moonsilver (PM , CC ) on Monday October 24, 2005 @ 2:41 AM




Jeff, the number of comments you've received on your first posting should prove to you you've got a world of support here. I'm fairly new to this, too, but one thing I've learned already is that we all have a story to tell. Tell yours. Timaki  
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by Timaki (PM , CC ) on Monday October 24, 2005 @ 4:14 AM




doctor made a great suggestion, stay with your computer for a while, great therapy. Babe..the greatest  
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by Babe-The Greatest (PM , CC ) on Monday October 24, 2005 @ 1:17 PM




Spyder Driver gave OUTSTANDING counsel in advising to stay loose. Be unattached and let go. You'll be okay. Remember Buddhist teachings that suffering is caused by attachment and desire, and that suffering ceases when attachment and desire are removed. If the goal is too overly desired, you lose. Take time for yourself, and HAVE FUN!  
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by LyleLitmus (PM , CC ) on Tuesday October 25, 2005 @ 10:23 AM




Been there 20 years ago. Get a dog. they don't answer back and are ALWAYS pleased to see you. Computer can provide much ammusement and learning and a few pennies to pay the bills when you get confident with it. As for women - serpents with T*ts on. Keep away - leave them at arms length, they are really nice then.  
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by Dave. (PM , CC ) on Tuesday October 25, 2005 @ 11:15 AM




Done the divorce thing also. My brother faced the sudden death of his beloved wife. We figured divorce is like a "death" only maybe harder because the other person is still around. Many people find it takes time to work through the emotions.. 2 years seems average... don't know for sure. I made a vow to become the best and most successful person I could be so my ex would regret leaving. I figured that would help me and not hurt anyone else. It worked and I'm happier. Just DON'T waste your life in regrets. What is... IS! Make the best choices you can every day to be the best person you can ever become... regardless of who is in your life (or not in it!)  
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by PetDilemmas (PM , CC ) on Saturday October 29, 2005 @ 2:26 AM




hello Jeff, just blog like nobody's watching and be yourself... and stuff... (wow, I need a thesaurus, or at least to re-educate myself... ahem) anyhow, bye  
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by christophersynthesized (PM , CC ) on Saturday October 29, 2005 @ 4:31 AM




just dont take yourself too seriously ,loose yourself ,express and be free ,remember expressing our heart is our difference fom animals.  
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by toocorupt (PM , CC ) on Saturday October 29, 2005 @ 8:29 AM




HI JEFF!! YOUR DOCTOR IS SO RIGHT! I LOVE DOING THIS. I'VE BEEN AT IT FOR ALMOST A YEAR. MY FATHER DIED ALMOST TWO YEARS AGO, AND I'VE FOUND IT EXTREMELY THERAPUTIC! I'VE MET SO MANY KOOL PEOPLE. SOME THAT I ACTUALLY CONSIDER FRIENDS AND TALK TO ON THE TELEPHONE! I KNOW, CRAZY RIGHT! ONE DEAR FRIEND LIVES IN MISSISSIPPI. I'M IN VEGAS! I LOVE HER TO DEATH! HOPEFULLY SHE AND HER HUSBAND WILL COME TO VEGAS SO THAT WE CAN "KICK IT" I'M LOOKING FORWARD TO SHOWING HER AROUND MY TOWN. I'M SURE THAT YOU WILL HEAL NICELY. WE'RE HERE FOR YOU BUD! :-) HUGS  
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by Schree` (PM , CC ) on Wednesday November 2, 2005 @ 2:42 PM




you go jeffer!! love your blog! one of the best i've seen. keep it up!! get it? hahaha!!  
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by Roxanne Weidenger (PM , CC ) on Friday November 4, 2005 @ 12:44 AM




Jeff, A person can't do it wrong here. I have just started my own and have read what my oldest daughter writes in hers. What ever you say is good. Relax, take it easy and allow thoughts to flow. You will do fine. Terri (standinfirm)  
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by standinfirm (PM , CC ) on Friday November 4, 2005 @ 10:21 AM




The only way to get better at doing anything is to practice. Just write everything you feel like writing and someone will respond.  
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by grandpa (PM , CC ) on Monday November 7, 2005 @ 8:58 PM




I can't say as I know how you feel but I have not had sex with a woman for over 15 years and I to am in my 50's. You are blessed to at least have a problem that can be helped. Work with your Dr. and soon this will be a bad memory. Take comfort in life and don't be to demanding on yourself.  
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by pissedoff (PM , CC ) on Tuesday November 8, 2005 @ 7:03 PM




Blogger, I am 61 and went through a divorce after 25 years of marriage at the age of 46. My lovely ex wife made one phone call one night when we were on our way out to dinner with friends and within 15 minutes I was out of my home of 25 years for good. The police locked me up until they could find a judge to issue a temporary restraining order on friday night and then they drove me back to my house and told me I had 15 minutes to gather up what I wanted and get out. I was devestated. My two sons were 19 & 18 at the time and were stunned by these events. Both of them are still not married today. My oldest daughter was away at college and she is happily married with 3 children. Today, I am a very happy single guy living in Florida with my three dogs. I dated briefly (2 months) and that didn't work out because that girl was 51 and messed up in the head and emotions (she told me that she was going through her changes). One thing about divorce, it becomes easier to recognize lunatics and shed problem makers from your life. I was a one girl man and would still be married today to my original wife if it had been up to me, so, I'm not one who ran aroung or drank too much. My paycheck was auto deposited every payday into our checking account and my wife managed that. After we were broke up it took her about 3 months to find another guy to move into my home and live with her. She rented out spare rooms and never reported the income to the IRS. She bought a new Lexus. I just want you to know that there is a life after divorce and I would venture to say that some years down the road when your head is out of this mess you are going to look back and realize that the person you were married too was much different then you originally thought. I worked very hard all my life, my wife never worked a day of our marriage, but, she didn't hesitate to try and take it all away from me. We were in divorce court for 12 years. In the end, she got half and I got half. How a person could live with another human being for so long and still be so vicious is beyond me. My exwife knew I had never cheated on her or wasted money and still she was that way. Go figure.  
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by BillsBullits (PM , CC ) on Thursday November 10, 2005 @ 4:41 AM




I would like very much that you add your blog to the ilikeblogs directory at www.ilikeblogs.com Please take a look at the site. There is no charge. Steve  
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by sch500 (PM , CC ) on Saturday November 12, 2005 @ 11:27 AM




i think if ur fuckin 50 why are u on here dick head  
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by dyme-crip (PM , CC ) on Sunday November 13, 2005 @ 10:08 PM




Hey.. I'm new here too. Hope your heart heals fast.  
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by flyakite (PM , CC ) on Friday November 18, 2005 @ 8:28 PM




Hi Jeff! Welcome..I'm 30'ish, and i'm glad to meet you. I hope and I'm pretty sure that this will help. Enjoy! schree`  
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by Schree` (PM , CC ) on Saturday November 19, 2005 @ 9:12 PM




I went through something similar. I had no intentions of ever marrying again, but someone upstairs had different plans for me. The Keeper of the Stars led me to a wonderful woman! Let not your heart be troubled, He is standing by for you.  
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by Giffbo (PM , CC ) on Wednesday November 30, 2005 @ 6:11 PM




hey! It's funny how our ages are different but how we can still relate on some level. Im very sorry to hear about your divorce but im glad you took this step toward a new beginning. I'm o the opposite side of life. Im 20 and engaged so im terrified of divorce. Its cool to know that i may be able to read your blogs for insight. hope i didnt creep u out.  
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by lovebunny (PM , CC ) on Saturday December 3, 2005 @ 12:38 AM




congratulations and I wish you all kinds of success. It takes a lot of guts. I m not going to tell you what to do, you will get enough of that. I was divorced 27 months ago and Im just now getting where I can look on the bright side again. Have a great day. mike  
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by No Jack (PM , CC ) on Tuesday December 6, 2005 @ 3:35 PM




Its another been there,done that.My divorce was back in '93..the syndrome we fell victim to was just plainly being too nice!Why some women prefer rotten apples I cannot say,but free your mind of the vitriol and treat the impotence as a side-effect of a bad drug...aka, the ex-wife.I am no Dr. but taking natural supplements such as saw palmetto and yohimbe bark or extract along with amino acids; arginine,lysine and ornithine will/should help the ol unit and improve your musculature also...Peace and try to lose the regret and/or anger...it never helps !! BigChris  
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by BigChris (PM , CC ) on Thursday December 8, 2005 @ 8:10 AM




Hey, I am married to a important my. I know if you search in the right place there are woman that love you no matter what. I know my self I love my husband know matte what. He is 57 and I am 41. He is a good man. If you show a woman or just people all together a good person who loves themself, people will except you for who you are. WE,my huband and I lean on the Lord for strength and get involed in church. Suround your self with good people. Get away from those who drain you. Put time in your self and remember If she left because of you trouble she is not worth you. Remember who you are and love your self. I think this blog stuff will help you. Welcome !  
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by dreamer (PM , CC ) on Monday December 12, 2005 @ 12:01 AM




Hi there! Welcome to the club. Hope you get the support needed.  
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by Doria (PM , CC ) on Monday December 12, 2005 @ 7:02 AM




I really enjoyed your site, keep on posting. Thanks, The Sovereign Post  
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by The Sovereign Post (PM , CC ) on Tuesday December 13, 2005 @ 6:39 PM




Hi My Name is Donnajo and I am right along with you. I am new here to and I am here to express my feelings along with my past , present and future. I wish you luck and hope we both feel better on a daily basis. Talk to you soon. Donnajo  
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by Donnajo (PM , CC ) on Wednesday December 14, 2005 @ 7:09 AM




welcome! this is a great place to let it all out, without a worry that someone you know will see it and know something about you and judge you. you'll get comments from people, some you like and some you don't. have at it!  
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by Magic (PM , CC ) on Wednesday December 14, 2005 @ 7:31 AM




Welcome. Please continue writing, it will help. Good luck.  
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by allaboutdogs (PM , CC ) on Wednesday December 14, 2005 @ 10:29 AM




It is very difficult to see during the Dark Night of the Soul that your present challenge will bring great gifts in the future. You will learn how resiliant you are, you will learn new skills--including expressing your feelings--that help you connect even more meaningfully with others. Divorce seems to be a right of passage in our current culture. Keep breathing...sometimes that's all you can do until something shifts. In peace, MasterSage  
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by MasterSage (PM , CC ) on Thursday December 15, 2005 @ 10:25 AM




Jeff, I noticed you and Warm Norm said you are impotent. Try changing that to Important. I, too, am physically impotent but I just try to live with it. Sometimes it just gets to me and I dream about my younger days. Those really were the good old days.  
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by Silver Fox (PM , CC ) on Thursday December 15, 2005 @ 2:51 PM




cheers.  
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by Stealtharachnid (PM , CC ) on Tuesday December 20, 2005 @ 1:08 AM




My firt time too but I really hopr this helps every one needs a place to release... Good Luck things will get eaiser.......  
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by sid (PM , CC ) on Thursday December 22, 2005 @ 11:35 PM




hi jeff just read your blog, well i am new at this to if i can do this believe me any one can. i am one of those people who said they never wanted a computer well here iam started a dog treat business so kind of needed to do this & i am learning pretty good some time my grandaughters show me some things. keep your chin up & if you are some one who prays the good lord is allways there for us. keep blogging , gail  
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by gail (PM , CC ) on Friday December 30, 2005 @ 9:08 PM




Dear Jeff.. this is my first time to write here - I mean I just have known the Blogstream only 2 days. I tried writing about myself,first started writng today,,,my special day ( it's my birthday )and I've seen your blog... I felt very sympathy with you but please believe me none is perfect, everyone has problems but if we stop and think,just only a bit... you will know that it might be the great time for you to change ... you shall have time to join the new life... just face what was happening to you and you can be the WINNER.. The marriage life is difficult to handle because two persons are different in life style.It's nice if we can adapt but if not...it's ok. and may be better to stay alone. Here's a little thing from me... this is my favorite psychologists.. he said... "I am I, You are You, I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, You are not in this world to live up to mine, I am I, You are You, If by chance , we meet each other , It's beautiful, If not, It can't be helped." So may be you 've done the right thing,my friend. I wish that if 2005 wasn't as great as it could have been,2006 will be here for you with hope ,properous and happiness.  
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by Oandee (PM , CC ) on Thursday January 5, 2006 @ 2:39 AM




Hi Jeff, I've been there done that twice. It takes time but you will get over it. Time heals all. Good luck, Sherrell  
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by Sherrell (PM , CC ) on Friday January 6, 2006 @ 11:54 PM




Welcome  
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by whitetigerjaide (PM , CC ) on Saturday January 7, 2006 @ 6:43 PM




Dude! where'd you go? It ain't nuthun but a thang...  
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by sharingcher (PM , CC ) on Saturday January 7, 2006 @ 6:51 PM




I'm new here too. I would enjoy reading about your thoughts. You are certainly brave and I hope you find the healing that you are seeking.  
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by Kelly J (PM , CC ) on Sunday January 8, 2006 @ 7:33 PM




Has Jeff left the building?  
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by SarahW (PM , CC ) on Sunday January 8, 2006 @ 7:36 PM




Hi Jeff, As they say been there got the hat and the shirt. I was Married 25 years found my self all alone. First thing work on yourself go to a gym. There no answers in a bottle. I found more answers in the gym and felt better after it.The first year was just hard things weren't the same.Get to known who Jeff is. Get too like him because hes new .  
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by Big Mike (PM , CC ) on Monday January 9, 2006 @ 3:37 PM




Hello, you said that you wanted a comment so this is just one to help out! Anyway this is my first day on this so I am only just getting good! Barbie  
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by Barbie (PM , CC ) on Friday January 13, 2006 @ 10:13 PM




I understand. I was recently told that I build walls faster than any drywaller known to man. I like being private, but I crave closeness.  
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by StressRunner (PM , CC ) on Tuesday January 17, 2006 @ 10:04 PM




With every ending, there is a new begining. Hang in there buddy. I think maybe it's time to buy a motorcycle and get that tattoo you've always wanted. Start living , and don't feel guilty about it. Good Luck.  
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by Big Mike (PM , CC ) on Thursday January 19, 2006 @ 11:05 AM




Hey, my parents just recently got over a divorce, and my dad took it REALLY hard. It got to a point where he wouldn't really talk to anyone and just moped around. I decided to talk to him and ended up sort of becoming his "therapist" if you will. I helped him a lot and now he's doing great, plus we got a lot closer. I am interested in your story and will post you my responses. *check out my blog, "Living in Alaska"  
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by *me (PM , CC ) on Thursday January 19, 2006 @ 4:59 PM




WELL DONEKEEP AT IT JEFF IT MIGHT HELP  
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by LONE SOMEGEEK (PM , CC ) on Monday January 23, 2006 @ 10:55 PM




I'm glad you chose to listen to your doctor. Journaling is always a good way to release unhealthy feelings, and the feedback from a public journal can be healing and inspiring. Good luck, and I hope things work out. I will keep you in my prayers!  
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by Brandi (PM , CC ) on Wednesday January 25, 2006 @ 12:09 AM




Hi Jeff,

I just joined this site and I seen your blog. I think your doctor is right...writing will help you release and feel better. Divorce is a hard thing to go through, I know. Talking to others that are going or have went through a divorce is the best medicine you'll ever find. You can find support groups all over the net too.

I wish you the best!

Ronni
 
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by Ronni (PM , CC ) on Thursday January 26, 2006 @ 11:21 AM




Jeff,

You will make it! There is life after Divorce. I was married 25 years to my first wife and she decided she wanted someone younger. Almost killed me with the emotional pain but I did survive! We had two grown children so that was a good aspect of the whole thing.

Hang in there...Life will get better and OH! Almost forgot, I'm married to a prettier, younger and much nicer person now!

Good luck and God bless.
 
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by Roddy (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 5:16 PM




Has Jeff ever cum back on here or is it to hard to do that?  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 5:20 PM




Donuts, I love the puns!  
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by Kelly J (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 5:23 PM




Oh thank you Kelly but just where is he? I mean he exposed himself the leadst he could do is cum back here.  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 5:25 PM




You'll find lots of friends here. I like this group of people..Do you take pictues or write poetry. Have a hobby??
You'll get ovet this. I promice. this too shall pass. I've been there and done that. it's really hard but you will live and hopefully find someone you'll love even more.
 
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by The River Rat (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 5:32 PM




If he genuinely has impotence he should see a urologist I mean that only makes sense and maybe a sex therapist...today there are all kinds of cures for impotence from drugs, to therapy to penile implants...it's odd he wrote this one post so long ago and never returned. Impotence is a treatable disorder.  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 5:36 PM




Sorry Jeff. I am not making fun of your problem, Really. I hope you are finding the healing that you need.  
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by Kelly J (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 5:38 PM




Ahhhh Kelly life is funny and we were not making fun of his problem...come on I know people who have way more serious disorders than a treatable sexual dysfunbction and they make lots of jokes of their conditions I had a friend with C.P. the way I met him is I swear he purposely fell at my feet knowing I would hold him and help pull him up and I was not the first woman he pulled that trick on it was funny when he admitted it was a ploy to meet ladies. You need to laugh at life otherwise you'll cry.  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 5:44 PM




I agree Donuts, life IS funny. We can choose to laugh at ourselves, even when we hurt, but I like to make sure that I don't hurt anyones feelings or make their pain appear unjustified as I laugh at life. I am just a tad paranoid about other ppls feelings I suppose.  
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by Kelly J (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 7:35 PM




Well, let's hope this is the place to get things back in working order, don't know how that'll work, but wonders exist everywhere!

Welcome abroad!
Debbie
 
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by deeej (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 7:39 PM




So am I but I certainly did not mean to make fun of his condition it is totally curable my gosh Viagra and other medications cure it if it is a medical condition and a qualified therapist can get to the emotional/mental root of the problem if it is in his mind and if all else fails there are penile implants...one time I heard some singer talking to Howard Stern, Leslie something of the band Mountain, that guy had a penile implant and he and Howard were joking about it a lot. Geez it is curable, it is not life-threatening and I really question if the writer of this blog was really impotent because it is treatable and why wouldn't he get it treated rather than write about it on a message board, if he had written he had testicular cancer or penile cancer, no that is not humorous, or if he wrote he had priapism that might not be funny, welllll.. but erectile dysfunction is a treatable disorder, it is like a woman who cannot enjoy sex because of lack of lubrication, or clamping, or just not having sexual desires it is treatable...modern medicine and psychotherapy can help a lot. And anyone that cannot make fun of themselves is going to have a miserable life and feel stress all the time. Geez look at John Wayne Bobbit he got his penis chopped off that was far worse than a man having sudden impotence, and look how many people made fun of him, John Wayne Bobbit made fun of himself all the time even making that porn FrankenPenis...geeez people need to loosen up. And I sure did not mean to insult or hurt this guy's feeling far from it, a cool guy would laugh at the puns.  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 7:52 PM




Is it wrong Kelly for me to have felt a wee-wee bit excited when I read what you wrote???  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 8:03 PM




uh.. I deleted it. There goes that PARANOID thingy I have again.  
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by Kelly J (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 8:04 PM




Hey Kelly your comment is gone!  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 8:06 PM




Ohhh it was sexy!! And if guys need penile implants they can rest assured that there will be women who are turned on if they get hard like that..... it's like men getting excited seeing Carmen Elektra with her perpetually stiff nipples......it's all good and hey I think men's penises are beautiful whether flaccid or erect I think God did a magnificent job creating men's and women's bodies....geeez don't be paranoid Kelly...be freeeeeeeee!!!  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 8:09 PM




Ohhh I had to look up what that is "tightening of the foreskin" so I take it only uncircumsized penises can get that..I have an amusing story about uncircumsized penises when I was 15 I was at my best friend's house we were in her bedroom and she held up a Playgirl opened to a specific page and said, "What's wrong with this dick?" her words not mine. I studied it and flippantly said, "Uncircumsized!" Then I added "It's wearing a turtleneck."  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 8:23 PM




LOL!! Thats what we always said too. Wearin a turtle neck. Too funny!!  
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by Kelly J (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 8:27 PM




Hehehe you and I are way tooooo alike!!!!  
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by Donuts Are My Life (PM , CC ) on Saturday February 4, 2006 @ 8:29 PM




I guess we're all new to this, Jeff. I just started a blog myself. I really didn't have any reason to until I realized It might be nice to make a document of what I was doing.

I hope your health is ok. I am also in my fifties and it is true that we aren't physically what we once were. if you want to look at my blog it's name is shadowlens and it's here on blogspot.

Ciao.
 
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by Israel (PM , CC ) on Wednesday February 8, 2006 @ 6:51 AM




Hi Jeff,
Hope that this is helping you. I am in my 50's also and am on my second marriage and know what it is like to go through a divorce. But there is someone out there for you and one day you will find her when you least expect it. I found my second husband that way.
 
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by Ladyjan (PM , CC ) on Tuesday February 21, 2006 @ 8:04 AM




Jeff;
Welcome DuDe to the times; BTW im 42 and none of this stuff makes sense to me but everybody under 40 does it. Enjoy the ride dUde.
~ Pastor Dave
 
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by Pastor Dave (PM , CC ) on Wednesday March 15, 2006 @ 7:44 PM




how about responding?  
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by Good Talk (PM , CC ) on Wednesday March 22, 2006 @ 10:19 AM




i totally understand my goal is to have someway to talk to. maybe make some friends along the way... so i guess we are new together  
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by angellove (PM , CC ) on Tuesday March 28, 2006 @ 12:52 AM




You will certainly feel ok with all the comments you have received from just this one post. Welcome to blogosphere.
Nnamdi.
Abuja, Nigeria
 
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by bronnamdi (PM , CC ) on Saturday April 1, 2006 @ 10:51 AM




Right On!Man. Just put it out there. I notice that when I blog or journal, it is like leaving something behind. Kind of like cleaning out your car of all the trash from a long trip.. It may look cluttered and disorganized, but throw out the trash,clean it up, and looks new! Now that you have time, it's time to work on YOU! What are some of the things you didnt do because you were married that you always wanted to? DO THEM! When we find our true selves, we find happiness, and love. Other people pick up on this vibration and are attracted to it. Check out my blog http://infiniteclarity.blogstream.com ( Living life with infinite clarity). I know this wiil help you! Success to you!

rustyboy
 
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by rustyboy (PM , CC ) on Wednesday April 12, 2006 @ 2:15 PM




You will be fine. Just do not put yourself to the condition of sadness, I cannot belive that the impotence was the first issue of divorce.
I think is could be inpotence the first issue of divorse.
Anyway , go to dating , do not stay alon. And get another spouse or just freand.
 
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by Nightstar (PM , CC ) on Tuesday April 18, 2006 @ 12:36 AM




OMG YOU PEOPLE ARE OLD!!!! (no offence)  
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by americanrose (PM , CC ) on Tuesday April 18, 2006 @ 2:54 PM




Hi, Jeff...

I live with my ex husband...he has always been very verile...however, he moved to Indiana, due to work, for 2 1/2 years. He has now moved back home with me, and I have noticed some changes in his sexual behavior...he's now 60 years old, but his sexual behavior has changed...perhaps impotence, or e d, or guilty consciense. He doesn't talk about anything, ever. Try to talk, open your heart. But don't wear people out with it. Don't be afraid to bear your soul, and if something is wrong, make it known, and make amends.
 
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by Julie (PM , CC ) on Tuesday May 2, 2006 @ 9:21 PM




Hey I am new to this to, so welcome. Often times to get over someone afte a divorce you need to go do something for yourself to make you feel good. Or even go out with friends to get your mind off of that person but dont met someone to soon because if your not over the past you want get anywhere in the present bye  
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by mommamouth (PM , CC ) on Monday May 8, 2006 @ 1:39 PM




Hey man..anything you want to talk about let me know. I'm a good listener.
:)
 
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by cyn (PM , CC ) on Friday May 19, 2006 @ 3:55 PM




Hey man..anything you want to talk about let me know. I'm a good listener.
:)
 
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by cyn (PM , CC ) on Friday May 19, 2006 @ 3:55 PM




Hello Jeff! I understand what you are going through, and I want you to know that it will do you good to release the pressure by writing a diary.
Please accept me as a friend and you are most welcome to write and share your pain with me. Time is a good healer!
Best Regards,
Author.
 
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by Author (PM , CC ) on Thursday June 1, 2006 @ 7:57 AM




you can work your way out through your emotional blanket. you'll soon get by. i was a sucker for inferioirty but since i posted bt blogs here and started chatting on webdatedotcom, my life has changed in a good way. telling you stuff right out helps to stimute an emotional balance for me...  
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by averagedrinker (PM , CC ) on Sunday June 18, 2006 @ 11:35 AM




you really inspired me to show my emotion in my blog  
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by Jasmine (PM , CC ) on Sunday August 6, 2006 @ 5:31 PM




you really inspired me to show my emotion in my blog  
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by Jasmine (PM , CC ) on Sunday August 6, 2006 @ 5:31 PM




Wow I can relate to your pain My wife of 40 years died of cancer I am 61 and trying to move on!  
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by Rusty6945 (PM , CC ) on Friday August 11, 2006 @ 1:28 AM





Well JeffW, this is my first time doing blog also. It seems harmless enough, a person express their thoughts and personal feelings without the judgemental stares. I have some issues that I am dealing with also, and a friend of mine told me about blog. So, I researched it & found this website, and decided to try it out. Your story kinda stuck out at me because you are going through a divorce, and I just went through a bad breakup with my first love. So, maybe we have something in common, and can share experiences that will help both of us through this transitional phase of acceptance. I look forward to reading more of your story.

Rika-Rik
 
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by Rika-Rik (PM , CC ) on Thursday August 17, 2006 @ 4:41 PM




Just recently I heard a sound of laughter coming from somewhere and It startled me because at the time I was all alone in my house. I couldn't believe it, that sound, that wonderful sound of laughter had come from me! I stood in my kitchen dazed and smiling at this new revelation. It felt like a surprise visit from a beloved friend I had not seen in ages. We have been getting re-aquainted since then.
 
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by SuperStutteringSallySays! (PM , CC ) on Saturday August 19, 2006 @ 2:57 PM




Hey...all things happen for a reason. im sorry to hear about your divorce but cast your line again...ill be a regular on your blog...  
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by janny (PM , CC ) on Tuesday October 10, 2006 @ 7:35 PM




Divorce is not the end of the world; it can be the beginning of a better life. The voice of experience is talking to you.  
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by Gallego (PM , CC ) on Saturday October 21, 2006 @ 6:29 PM




Hello,there are many guys experiencing this problem. Dr. Linus Pauling, Scientist and Nobel Peace Prize winner stated that every sickness or disease can be traced back to a mineral deficiency. For more information visit www.myrevive.com/glad  
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by Something that makes you feel good (PM , CC ) on Tuesday October 24, 2006 @ 11:46 PM




I'm pretty much in the same boat as you. Yet I'm 18 pretty computer literate, and never married. I feel like I need to use this blog as a way to express my emotions and heal. Maybe we can help each other out along the way.  
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by Dora the explora (PM , CC ) on Saturday November 4, 2006 @ 3:08 PM




Hi Jeff Sorry to hear about your problems I am 46 years old and would be glad to listen anytime u need to talk! also u can E-mail me dawnnettia@hotmail.com been there and done the divorce thing!!  
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